At weddings, when the bride walks in for her big entrance, some heads turn to focus on the groom, to catch his reaction of seeing his bride.
Every man takes this moment differently and each expression is unique to the man and the relationship, none better than another. The best thing about this moment is, that in a relationship founded on love, the groom’s joy, excitement, and thankfulness stream out of his eyes. Check it out here…
Of course, as humans, these excited and breath-taking moments are often intermixed with a healthy fear and nerves, but there is nothing quite like a groom looking at his radiant bride. The skeptical onlooker may see this as a naive moment in a relationship, but that could not be further from the truth.
Often the groom knows his bride’s strengths and weaknesses, and nevertheless chooses to selflessly partner with her in the unknown joys and challenges to come. This is what makes love so good for all of us, knowingly putting another before ourself. The greenness of the newlywed relationship does not indicate a lack of depth or understanding, but rather a simple and fresh view into the power of love.
The true beauty of the video above is, these grooms’ love is a glimpse of God’s love for us. A shadow of a greater love and vow. It took me a long time to understand that God sees me a different way than I see myself. Often, I see myself through lies the world has fed me, and am striving for approval and perfection. But God has always had his jaw on the ground in awe of me as I am, frizzy hair, curvy hips, outspoken nature and all. Oh what peace, acceptance, and freedom.
Throughout scripture and tradition we see metaphors and parables to help us understand our relationship to God. A father, creator, shepherd, sacrificial lamb, bread, vine, and so many more. The metaphor that speaks most directly into the persistent lies of my life, is of the bridegroom adoring his bride.
What freedom and peace to understand that, no matter if I am in my pjs, covered in baby slobber, or in a low moment, God looks on me like a bride on a wedding day, adorned with beautiful things, dressed in a clean white gown, and shining from the beauty that lies deep within. Of course there are times of disappointment, and when necessary, correction, but in every moment, he sees me as these grooms see their brides in this video, as a gift to have and hold.
My human eyes have a hard time reconciling how God could see the work in progress that I am, as a masterpiece. I can only be one or the other, right? Mess or masterpiece? I, as a human, am limited in understanding and love, but God is limitless. Nothing can detract from the love he has for me, and the beauty he sees in the soul he created.
If you need a reminder of your identity and beauty in Christ check out these verses below.
You are known.
“Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten in God’s sight. But even the hairs of your head are all counted. Do not be afraid; you are of more value than many sparrows.” Luke 12:6-7
“Can a woman forget her nursing child, or show no compassion for the child of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you. See, I have inscribed you on the palms of my hands; your walls are continually before me.” Isaiah 49:15-16
See also, Psalm 139:13-18, Psalm 40:5, Jeremiah 29:11, and John 14:2-3
You are chosen.
“For we know, brothers and sisters beloved by God, that he has chosen you…” 1 Thess 1:4
“But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s own people, in order that you may proclaim the mighty acts of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.” 1 Peter 2:9
See also, Ephesians 2:10.
You are never too far away.
“But God proves his love for us in that while we still were sinners Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
“He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far he removes our transgressions from us. As a father has compassion for his children, so the Lord has compassion for those who fear him.” Psalms 103:10-13
See also, Luke 15:11-24 and Wisdom 11:22-26.
You are rejoiced over.
“The Lord, your God, is in your midst, a warrior who gives victory; he will rejoice over you with gladness, he will renew you in his love; he will exult over you with loud singing” –Zephaniah 3:17
“For as a young man marries a young woman, so shall your builder marry you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you.” Isaiah 62:5
You are a new creation in Christ.
“So if anyone is in Christ, there is a new creation: everything old has passed away; see, everything has become new!” 2 Cor. 5:17
“and to clothe yourselves with the new self, created according to the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.” Ephesians 4:24
You shine bright.
“You are the light of the world. A city built on a hill cannot be hid.” Matthew 5:14
“So that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, in which you shine like stars in the world.” Philippians 2:15
See also, 2 Corinthians 4:6 and 1 Peter 2:9.
You are a loved child of God.
“And because you are children, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” So you are no longer a slave but a child, and if a child then also an heir, through God.” –Galatians 4:6-7
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, just as he chose us in Christ before the foundation of the world to be holy and blameless before him in love. He destined us for adoption as his children through Jesus Christ, according to the good pleasure of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace that he freely bestowed on us in the Beloved.” –Ephesians 1:1-3
See also, Romans 8:17 and 1 John 3:1-2
Your smallness cannot negate the bigness of God’s love for you. Check out the video one more time, and know these grooms’ reactions are only a shadow of our Creator.
So go, move forward, knowing that your beauty as the bride of a King beams from you. I am in awe of you, and your creator is in awe of you. Yes, I mean you in the sweatpants.
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